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tapper2 · 3rd May 2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Hanna

it is unfair by the sounds of it. if you cant explain in words (speak-y words) maybe you should write them a letter explaining that you arent just being immature. that it's a serious issue, and that you are upset with yourself. deal with it maturely without anger and they ought to respect the way you act about it. tell them that they shouldnt ignore it, it's important to you that something changes, and you are hurt by the way they have treated you as immature when there is a serious problem with your life that is getting you down..

So you saying dealing with myself in anger is immature and saying without anger is being mature and if i talk about myself without anger then the will treat me like an mature Adult?

Hanna · 4th May 2007, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by tapper2

So you saying dealing with myself in anger is immature and saying without anger is being mature and if i talk about myself without anger then the will treat me like an mature Adult?

Dealing with your own emotions by having angry outbursts is not immature, its a normal reaction, but if you learn to CONTROL it you will seem more mature and will be more likely to be taken seriously.
If you just act angry and annoyed your parents are likely to think you are just being a moody teenager...
However if you are less bitter and treating the issue more seriously, they are more likely to see it as a problem and treat it that way too...
Its not for sure, but it is more likey. try not to get annoyed at them, and talk about it seriously...

tapper2 · 4th May 2007, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Hanna

Dealing with your own emotions by having angry outbursts is not immature, its a normal reaction, but if you learn to CONTROL it you will seem more mature and will be more likely to be taken seriously.
If you just act angry and annoyed your parents are likely to think you are just being a moody teenager...
However if you are less bitter and treating the issue more seriously, they are more likely to see it as a problem and treat it that way too...
Its not for sure, but it is more likey. try not to get annoyed at them, and talk about it seriously...

Are you saying i f just get angry without outbursts and i control the outbursts then my family will treat me as a serious mature adult and what if i have craving of an outburst to get out of me thatthat slips out with out being under control?my family thinks me haveing angry outburst is immature?how can i show my family that i want be seriously mature enough adult of wanting Bf?

Hanna · 5th May 2007, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by tapper2

Are you saying i f just get angry without outbursts and i control the outbursts then my family will treat me as a serious mature adult and what if i have craving of an outburst to get out of me thatthat slips out with out being under control?my family thinks me haveing angry outburst is immature?how can i show my family that i want be seriously mature enough adult of wanting Bf?

Thats likely to happen, but you have to try to keep control, it will be better for everyone in the long run if you do. Just try....

First tell them how upset you feel with yourself and how important it is that they support you. Then later once you have that maybe then you can tell them about being lonely and wanting a boyfriend...

tapper2 · 5th May 2007, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Hanna

Thats likely to happen, but you have to try to keep control, it will be better for everyone in the long run if you do. Just try....

First tell them how upset you feel with yourself and how important it is that they support you. Then later once you have that maybe then you can tell them about being lonely and wanting a boyfriend...

I will try to keep my outbursts under control even if it wants to slip but if i tell my family how i feel then what if they don't want to listen what i would have to say what they ignore me and don't pay attention like they don't do often i guess i am afraid for them to love me cause i haven't been there before if a outburst come out of me then how should i tell it not to come out?

Jellybean · 5th May 2007, 04:49 AM

ok, this is really off topic.
if you want to talk about your problems, create a thread in the help and advice section. this topic is about sexuality...
and also, tapper2, you might want to (as hanna already mentioned) use some full stops so that people can actually understand what you're saying.

(if this conversation continues i will be deleting posts)

loonytoons · 30th May 2007, 11:29 AM

i think it is a way to differentiate.